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Missing Praying Due to Family

I just wanted to say that I am a teenage girl who is a Muslim. I have not been very close to Allah but I’m trying to get closer now. I started praying as much as I can and I even started learning more about Islam. However, my mom is not muslim and is not very fond of me being very religious. I try to pray before she comes home everyday so that she doesn’t find out. I am really scared to go to hell and I’m trying to do what’s right and serve Allah. Please give me advice on what to do. I tried speaking to her about it but she seemed unhappy. I know that respecting your parents is important in islam but obeying Allah is important too. Please help me. Thank you for taking the time and reading this.

Salaam, Allah (swt) knows your struggles and intentions, and loves how hard you are trying to get closer to your faith. There are three forms of prayers: salat (the five daily), zhikr ( rhythmic repetition of the name of God), and simply making dua. You can even make dua in your head. Pray to Allah (swt) that your mom is more understanding of your faith, but also give it time because everything happens with patience. 🙂 Islam is simple and beautiful so remember that God knows all our situations, and I promise that it will improve over time. When I first taught my siblings to pray the five prayers, I started them with just a couple and I increased it overt time because I know that Allah knows their situation, and now they do all five. 

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1 year ago

This is actually not the correct advice. Islam is not like christianity were anyone can give a verdict based on their opinions be it right or wrong. Islam is the deen on Allah and whatever is said has to be in line with Quran and Hadith. There is no obediance to parents in anything which involves disobedianceto Allah. The 5 daily prayers are compulsary whether parents like you praying or not. Dhikr and Dua can never be a replacement for any payer. If a person is in extreme difficulty and danger there are certain things he/she can do. Which people who have knowledge of the deen have mentioned. The scholars of Islam when they give advice they dont get sin if their advice was wrong unless it was deliberate. But ordinary Muslims get sin if they give advice which is wrong. Its best to stick to topics such why you became Muslim, food etc

1 year ago

There are not three forms of prayer. Salat, Dhikr/Zikr, and Dua are considered worship, and are part of worship. They are not prayers.

Dhikr/Zikr is not rhythmic repetition of the name of God. Dhikr is praises of Allah (eg Subhan Allah) and is recited normally. It is according to what is in the Sunnah. Meaning you can recite what is reported in the ahadith and the Quran.

You cannot make promises, especially about the future, that you have no knowledge about.