Q: I have been speaking to this guy I really like and would like to tell my parents about him soon. My uncle found out about him, and I had to lie and tell him I do not speak to him anymore, even though I do. This means when I tell my parents about him, I have to lie and tell them that I stopped talking to him for a while (2+) years. Will this make my marriage without baraqah? I do not engage in any haram activities with this man, nor have I met him. Of course, I know the interaction and excessive conversation are not allowed. May Allah swt help me, but can somebody please advise me on what I can do to make this situation better? Also, I want to know how much this can make my marriage start off without blessings since I would be lying about not talking to him.
A: Firstly, the fact that you respect your parents and care about them shows that you have a good heart. Secondly, you have not done anything harmful to this person, so you do not have to lie to your parents because it will just make you feel more guilty, and one lie leads to another. You also do not want to live your life with this lie in the back of your mind, so just tell them. In the Qur’an, it says, “Surely Allah does not guide him aright who is a liar, ungrateful.” [Quran 39:3] Just relax, pray, and Allah (swt) will make it easier for you to tell your parents!
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