Q&A

Q: Is it permissible for me as a Muslim, to visit my friend’s house when they are celebrating stuff such as CNY or Diwali? Would this be considered shirk? I go there not to celebrate it but just to visit them the way they visit during Ramadan. A: Of course you can. Islam teaches us to respect all religions and cultures even if we don’t believe in them. In the Quran tolerance is viewed a necessary prerequisite for coexistence. It assumes social, cultural and religious differences that require toleration, even if these differences do not meet with the approval of the parties involved. Tolerance without greater acceptance indicates a sense of conditioned approval. Hope that helps.

Q: What is the most difficult aspect of Islam or being a Muslim, and what are ways to overcome these difficulties? A: The most difficult aspect of Islam, in my opinion, is realizing that Islam itself is not difficult at all. It is us that makes it difficult. For example, if you treat the five daily prayers as a hassle and a mundane ritual, you will stress while praying. However, if you view your prayers as moment to take a pause in your day, relax, and thank your Creator for the blessings in your life, your prayers will be something that you will look forward to.

Q: Do You Believe Hijab Is Mandatory or Optional? A: Thank you for your question. I honestly do not know. If I believed it was mandatory, I would wear it. However, I have heard both versions, and I grew up in a household that does not wear hijab. I was always taught to wear modest clothing and have a clean heart. I also do not believe I have enough knowledge on the topic to give advice. May Allah (swt) guide us all to the ultimate truth.

Q: What Do I Do if My Parents Are Forcing Me to Read the Quran? A: I think it is best if you sit down with your parents and have a discussion. Let them know how them forcing you to read Quran is straining your relationship with the Quran. The prophet (saw) never forced anyone to do anything, and that is how it should be. Islam is simple and beautiful and the way to get closer to the Quran and Islam should be on your own terms. I do believe that you should dedicate everyday to practice reading Quran, but don't stress yourself out. Some days, you should read a page, but even if you don't have time, reading even one verse a day will help you get closer to Allah (swt). We should always make time for our Creator who created time. I learned this from experience because I used to force myself to read a certain number of pages a day, and all it did was stress me out and made me frustrated. I thought to myself...the Quran is meant to do the complete opposite. One of my friends told me to start reading however much I felt. Some days, it was a page and some days it was one verse. This made me even close to the Quran, and much more in peace. Remember, from one verse, your can learn so much. Ponder about its meaning. I hope that this helps, and I pray that your parents allow you to practice your faith in a way that brings your peace and tranquility.

Q: Are parents responsible if a child decides to leave Islam even if parents did teach Islam, and the rules to the child during childhood? A: A parent can only teach their children, but cannot force a child to believe in something. Islamic law prohibits forced conversion, following the Quranic principle that there is "no compulsion in religion." [Quran 2:256] Thus, the best thing you can do is pray to Allah (swt) to guide your child and also try to give resources to your child.